When it comes to making up with
your ex, most experts and books will tell you that it takes 30 days or
longer to do it. They operate under the theory that time heals all
wounds, so after a month your ex may have softened towards you enough to
consider taking you back.
This does work in some cases,
but it can also be bad relationship advice in many others. After a
month or more, your ex may have moved on. They may have completely
gotten over you. They may already have their eye on someone else.
Waiting sometimes can be the exact opposite of what you need to do to
make up with them.
So is there a way to get your ex back in just one day or so? Can this really
happen? Yes! When you know what you're doing, you can often get your ex back
in hours instead of months. If you can get them back at all, often
you can get them back quickly more easily than slowly.
What, then, should you do to make up in one day? The answer to
this varies based on the reasons you broke up. There are three general
triggers that cause a break up.
First, your mate wronged you,
maybe they cheated on you. Second, you wronged your mate, you were too
controlling or too jealous or you cheated on them. The final reason is
that your ex lost their interest and passion in you.
Nonetheless, for
each of these reasons, you can often begin to get your ex back and start
making up in one
day when you go about it using the correct relationship intelligence.
Let's use as an example a situation where you got caught cheating on
your ex. They kicked you out, swearing they could not ever trust you
again after such a huge betrayal. Can this type of damage possibly be
repaired in just hours?
Many times, yes, it can. What you need to do is to have a certain kind
of conversation with them that takes about fifteen minutes. In this
conversation, you don't apologize, at least not right away. Saying I'm
sorry til you're blue in the face doesn't work, as your probably already
know.
What you need to do is follow three specific steps before you apologize.
That's right, before you ever let the words "I'm sorry" out of your
mouth, there are a few steps to take first!
These steps can be summed up as owning up to what you did,
acknowledging the hurt you caused, and then listening to how they feel
about it.
Making up with your ex back often requires more listening than it does apologizing!
The key to getting your ex back in one day lies more in being a good
listener than in what you say. When your mate has had a chance to vent
their hurt feelings in a particular way, then they make room in their
heart to love you again.
Allowing your mate to vent in a healing manner takes only a short time,
but in that short time your ex can begin to release most of their negative
feelings, which makes room in their heart for forgiveness.
The
conversations that allow this take only about fifteen minutes, but they
can support profound change in your ex's feelings about you.
Venting is a key to making up that most people completely overlook.
Once they have begun to
forgive, they can begin to make room in their heart to love you again.
There is much more detail to this, but the emotional intelligence
required is fairly easy to learn. But rather than wait months hoping to
get your ex back in most cases the right kind of conversation can begin
to get you back with your mate in hours instead of months.
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