Making Up | Let Your Ex Vent

There is one key skill that is often overlooked when trying to make up with your ex.  Everyone thinks if they want to make up that they have to do all the talking.  But listening can be just as important, if not more so.  Here's why:

The reason relationships end can be grouped into three categories. You wronged your ex, they wronged you, or relationship drift. This article deals with the first two reasons.

If, for example, your ex cheated on you or you cheated on them, there is a very important strategy you can use to get them back that can work in hours instead of weeks or months. This strategy is called venting. Venting is when you or someone else gets things off their chest. What does this have to do with getting your ex back fast?

Because their good feelings towards you have now been replaced by bad ones. Hurt, anger, sadness. That's obvious. So the question becomes, how can you help them to release those negative feelings besides wait six months to see if they get over it? Is there a way to speed up the process of resolving negative feelings?

The way to heal negative feelings faster is to allow your mate to vent them. To release them. To get them off their chest, to let them go. So if he or she is furious or very hurt by something you did to them, you want to call them and ask them how they feel about what you did. Then shut up and let them have the time they need to form their feelings into words and start telling you.

Picture a balloon getting full of hot, angry, hurt emotions. Venting allows you to prick the balloon and release the pressure. The thing to remember when helping your ex bent is to just listen, not attack or argue or try to explain. You just want to let them talk as much as they feel like doing so.

You already know this works.  You have used it at bars and with friends most of your life.  You have a hard week at work, you have drinks with a friend and tell them all about your tough week.  You feel better, lighter, more ready to go after doing this.  Getting things off one's chest works.

The problem we often get into when trying to make up is we want to argue and explain and justify ourselves.  This can keep your ex stuck, full of their negative feelings.

You can use this same method in reverse if your ex wronged you in some way. If they committed infidelity and you kicked them but want them back, you need to clear or vent your negative feelings over what they did. You need to let go of those feelings before you can really trust them some again. You do this by asking them to just listen to you and not explain or justify while you talk.

Using this skill along with a few others can make a big difference when it comes to getting your ex back. You can often get them back in hours or days instead of waiting months and hoping they get over it!  If you would like to get your ex back without weeks of work you can check out the complete method here at Get Your Love Back Now.  When you know the right steps to take, you can often have a solid chance of making up with your ex within 24 hours.