Can you get your ex back with
just one phone call? Even more, can you get them back with one
phone call that lasts less than half an hour?
The answer is that
yes, sometimes you can do exactly that! Since every break up is
different, sometimes making up will take more than one call, but you can begin
to get back together most times with the right kind of phone call.
If you want to get your ex back
fast, starting with one phone call, instead of waiting 30 days or more
hoping he/she will forgive you, you will need a powerful strategy.
You will need a step by step plan that you can follow to make this
important call have the best chance to work.
You
will need to use emotional intelligence that will help your ex to
release their negative feelings about you so they can get back to
feelings of love. Emotional intelligence isn't hard to
learn. Let's start with this:
Before you make that call, the first thing to know is that you don't
want to apologize right away. If saying I'm sorry worked, you would
already be back together. So no matter how sorry you feel, don't start
your call with an apology.
Instead of saying I'm sorry, the first thing to do on the call is to
admit what you did wrong. Own it. Fess up. Say something
like "I
want to start by saying that I did you wrong. I was too controlling (or
I cheated on you or whatever) and jealous." This is a vital first
move.
The emotional intelligence here is powerful! Look at this for
yourself, when somebody wrongs you. Before you can get to
forgiveness, you want to know that the person understands that they did
something wrong. If a friend screws up and then lies about it, you have
a much harder time letting it go. But if they can own up to it, you can
see it as a mistake and forgive and start making up that much faster.
If you cheated on them, don't say "it didn't mean anything." It
may not have meant anything to you, but it sure did to your ex, that's
why they're your ex. And, if it didn't mean anything, then you ex
might start to think you could just do it again, couldn't they?
So the first step to getting your ex back in a phone call is to admit,
own, fess up to what you did wrong. If you want to get ex back,
this is a great start. Don't give excuses and try a bunch of lame
explanations.
Then you are ready for the next step, which is to tell your ex the pain
and hurt you caused them by whatever you did wrong. "I know that my
infidelity caused you to feel sad and hurt and unloved..."
In this step you are letting your ex know at a deep emotional level that
you really do understand that you did wrong and further, that you know
you caused damage. You are mirroring the pain your ex feels and he/she
is feeling very heard and understood.
This is important
Emotional Intelligence to help your ex move towards forgiveness.
If they feel that you really understand the pain you caused them, if
they feel emotionally heard and understood, they will be over half of
the way to forgiveness.
Just like with little kids who
screw up, we want them to know the damage they caused, then it is easier
to just let it go and get back to loving them. If we feel they
understand how what they did affected others, we feel they can learn
from the experience.
There are other steps to take in this one phone call for making up with
your ex, but if you just do these first two with your ex before you get
to apologizing you will be much more likely to win them back. Before
they can take you back they need to release their bad feelings and
forgive you, and these two steps will help them get there much faster
than just saying I'm sorry.
If you would like to learn the
proven Immediate Reconnect Strategies to get your ex back, you can check
out the complete method here at
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