Making Up Without Weeks Of Work

A lot of books and "experts" on how to get your ex back basically say the same thing. Wait 30 days or more and have no contact. Then contact them again and see if they want to get together. The hope is that after 30 days they will have gotten over their upset and lost their anger towards you.

This approach is based on the theory that time heals all wounds. You know, when they dumped you they were upset, after four weeks or so they wont be mad anymore. Further, the hope is that they will feel more like forgiving you and will have started to miss you some. 

Does time heal all wounds?

Sometimes yes, sometimes no.  This method of getting back with your ex has some value in some specific situations. But, for the most part, it can create a lot of problems.

In the first place, you will have weeks of being nervous and feeling miserable.  Will they take you back or not?  Will they get over it or not?  This is a tough thing to do. 

Then, the anger your ex may feel can simmer and fester for all those weeks. Their heart can harden towards you in that time. Also, they may start dating someone else. When there is someone else in the picture, their heart strings start to attach to the new person, making it extremely difficult to get them back.

To avoid losing your ex to another person, you may want to try a more direct approach.  I recommend doing an immediate reconnect strategy first.  There are some immediate reconnect strategies that will often work to get an ex back in hours or days, not months.  This way, you can do an hour or day of work and find out if they are interested instead of weeks of waiting and worrying type of work.  If it doesn't work, you may need to go to the "waiting" strategy.

Let's say you cheated on your ex and they kicked you out last week. They feel betrayed and like they can never trust you again. This is completely understandable.

To get them back more quickly, you need to understand that feelings change. In a month, maybe a year, they will get over and won't be mad forever.

The big important key to understand to get your ex back fast is that you yourself can help their feelings to change. You don't have to wait on mother time to heal the wounds. Two ways to accomplish this are by making a certain kind of deep apology, and helping them to get their negative feelings off their chest.

Combine these two methods and you can often have a breakthrough in getting your ex back fast. They can release their bad feelings and start to move towards wanting you back. You can often get your ex back in hours or days if you apologize in a certain way and help them to vent their bad feelings. You don't need to wait months.

The whole strategy is not too hard to understand, but it has seven separate steps to making up in hours not weeks.

If you would like to get your ex back without weeks of work you can check out the complete trust rebuilding method here at Get Your Love Back Now.  When you know the right steps to take, you can often recover from infidelity and have a solid chance of making up with your ex within 24 hours.